PAIN, SUFFERING, AND BLOODY CARNAGE!!!

I titled this entry "Pain, Suffering, and Bloody Carnage" to point out what is being left behind in family after family--where Satan goes in and deceives husbands and wives that they'd be better off to go pursue what they want--and just divorce and let the family be torn apart!

Jesus weeps at such family tragedies! Scripture is very clear, that adultery is the only justifiable reason for divorce! Now--certainly like many Christians--in my heart I believe that God is understanding of physical abuse, child molestation and other difficult things that can come up sometimes where a spouse has no choice but to be apart from the abusive spouse. But I rarely here such reasons when I hear about marraige breakups these days.

Unfortunately, I hear things like: "We've just grown apart," or "He or she just gets on my nerves" or "I am just not attracted to (her) (him) anymore," or "I just want to be happy."

And what I notice in almost everyone of these situations--is that while most of these couples splitting up say they are believers--most are not really serious in their relationships with God both as individuals and as couples. Very few live an active lifestyle in the Lord day to day--but are too often concerned about their own selfish wants and desires. Many do not pray together, nor do they have much communication period unless it is negative. My dear friends--OUR MARRAIGES AND OUR FAMILIES DESPERATELY NEED THE LORD!!!

When we marry, we enter into a covenant relationship with each other and with God. God does not like His covenants being broken and HE does not like families being torn apart. God hates the life time scars that are left on children after divorce. Genesis 2 tells us that at some point, a man shall leave his father and mother and become one with a woman. That does not mean that each spouse has to lose their identities--but it does mean that married couples are to be united together--forsaking all others!

Ephesians 5 and 6 teach us how God wants husbands and wives to live. It takes both husband and wife working everyday. But through God's word, through couples praying together, choosing to love each other more and more and get "self" out of the way--great miracles can take place. And there are also Christian Counselors that can also help couples sort through problems and be able to better communicate better. If your marraige is hurting, there is hope! God can do great things we cannot do!

However, much is at stake!

When a husband or wife makes the final decision to leave the marraige covenant--there is so much pain and suffering. I can tell you that so many emotional scars are also left on the adults too. But the real victims are the children whose lives change forever. So much "bloody carnage" is often left behind because one or both spouses decide without good Biblical cause to end a marraige and EVERYONE LOSES!!!

If your marraige is struggling--there is help! Start praying together. Start reading books like "The Power of Praying Couples" and "His Needs Her Needs" to name a few--and those books can really help! Invite your pastor or church leadership team to help pray with you and perhaps counsel you and your spouse. Get Christian Marraige Counseling. Don't give up on your marraige! Instead honor God, learn to love Jesus better everyday--and HE will teach you to love your spouse better than you ever have before!

Peace and Love to all.